I agree with this statement.
Disappointment is defined as the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Expectation is present in our lives at all times and many expectations go without saying. We live by a series of codes and rules, which we occasionally need reminding of. Everything that we wish to happen in the future is an expectation. Expectations can be both great and small but it is the level of expectation and the intensity of the relationship that can cause the unhappiness and disappointment.
If I expected a bus to come at 6.45pm and it didn’t come until 7.00pm, I would be disappointed, but I know that another bus will soon be on its way.
If I expected to get married and then my partner pulled out at the last minute, I would be heartbroken. If we set ourselves unrealistic expectations, then we are just asking to be let down. I feel that relying on people is risky because you never know when the circumstances might change. You may fall out, or the person may change and it may ruin your expectations. Relationships are formed around expectations. To be friends with someone, you expect kindness, trust and honesty. If a friend is unkind, untrustworthy or dishonest you feel let down and disappointed. However, if you are good friends, the expectation is that you can resolve the situation, make amends and restore the friendship. The question may be whether there is any expected situation which is unforgiveable, where the level of disappointment is so great that it can never be resolved.
This will again different for everyone as we all have different levels of expectation. Optimistic people often feel more disappointed if they are let down because they are always expecting good things to happen. Pessimists or realists are less disappointed because they don’t expect good things to happen! The comment could be an interesting discussion between Psychiatrists!